I feel that I am really lacking in the interpersonal relationship skills, or you can say the HR department. I'm not a people person.
I don't think I have a best friend, my boyfriend is my best friend. I've tried to become a good friend, to listen and to help, but it doesn't really work. it makes me believe that friends do come and go, that they won't always be there for you. I have come to realise that for now, I can only rely on myself, and maybe my boyfriend. I'm a loner, I wish not, but I am.
Monday, May 21, 2007
all sorts
let's start with the things I wanted to write since months ago. I guess I'll make it a short one.
To help or not TO HELP
I guess we need to be careful in deciding whether we should help someone. On one side, constant help will only make the recepient complacent, reliant. On the other hand, we shouldn't assume that by not helping, we are actually training the person to be independent, be a better person. To illustrate my point, I remember having a discussion during my secondary days, the topic was about prostitutes. most of my friends condemned, because prostitution is morally wrong. the argument was that it's an immoral act and they can do other things to get money. The real question is "Can they do other things?" life is not about when you want a job, then the job would be there for you. Sometimes, the condition doesn't allow you. It's so easy for us to judge, because we are more fortunate, experience is a great teacher. we should remove the idealistic thinking that however things go, there's always a way out. Maybe you can try telling that to millions of african people who die of hunger.
next topic, accepting me for who I am.
What I've noticed from quite a number of profiles and relationships "advertisement" is that they would put this sentence "I want someone who can accept me for who I am". Just a retrospect, what those people are doing is that you want people to accept you unconditionaly, but you have created conditions and requirements towards other people. simply put, people who can accept me, please apply, and I will do the sorting. It's rather one sided, don't you think?
To help or not TO HELP
I guess we need to be careful in deciding whether we should help someone. On one side, constant help will only make the recepient complacent, reliant. On the other hand, we shouldn't assume that by not helping, we are actually training the person to be independent, be a better person. To illustrate my point, I remember having a discussion during my secondary days, the topic was about prostitutes. most of my friends condemned, because prostitution is morally wrong. the argument was that it's an immoral act and they can do other things to get money. The real question is "Can they do other things?" life is not about when you want a job, then the job would be there for you. Sometimes, the condition doesn't allow you. It's so easy for us to judge, because we are more fortunate, experience is a great teacher. we should remove the idealistic thinking that however things go, there's always a way out. Maybe you can try telling that to millions of african people who die of hunger.
next topic, accepting me for who I am.
What I've noticed from quite a number of profiles and relationships "advertisement" is that they would put this sentence "I want someone who can accept me for who I am". Just a retrospect, what those people are doing is that you want people to accept you unconditionaly, but you have created conditions and requirements towards other people. simply put, people who can accept me, please apply, and I will do the sorting. It's rather one sided, don't you think?
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